with love comes decay


also apparently being agender means i cant wear clothes marketed to women or men. Mind telling me what im supposed to wear then?


I’m really disturbed by how much emphasis most people put on genitals when it comes to determining who they can love or have sex with.

Not all labia or clitorises look the same. Not all penises or testes look the same. Not all people have one or the other. Not all women have a vagina. Not all men have a penis. There are people with those genitals who are not women or men.

Not everyone has sex the same way. Not everyone interacts with their genitals the same way. Not everyone will want to interact with your genitals the same way.

Everyone’s body is different. Everyone has sex differently. You can’t possibly know what someone’s genitals will be like until you’ve seen them naked, so you can’t possibly base romantic or sexual attraction to people-that-you-haven’t-seen-naked-yet on what their genitals look like. (Unless you exchange greetings by flashing your junk at one another?) To assume someone’s genitals is cissexist. To exclude them from your pool of potential partners because they are trans is transphobic. You’ve likely found trans people attractive before without even realizing it because- get this- we’re just normal people.

Trans women are women. Trans men are men. You do not get to determine otherwise.

If you are a lesbian who really wants to say ‘but I don’t like penis,’ you need to seriously assess where that mindset comes from. I will save you some time: it comes from the assumption that genitals are gendered. They are not. To assert that they are is transmisogynistic and the kind of idea that gets trans women killed at a disgustingly high rate.

Anonymous sent: "I’ve always known pro Israelis are deluded and ahistorical, but this post takes the cake." Dounyazed - Just out of principal I don't see how you could be so inclined to have such a hatred towards pro-Israelis just for being pro-Israelis. Surely you know better, and the current situation is vastly more complicated than you or I could possibly fathom. It's not as black as white as "The Palestinians are being oppressed by the Israelis, murdering children and stealing their land", just as it's not


as simple to say “Israel are 100% in the right and will always be in the right”, otherwise the world would have taken action long, long ago. Please don’t lie to us or yourself. Please answer this and if you actually say something thats unbiased then ill be on your side.

“Just out of principal.”

You don’t know what you’re talking about.

As a Palestinian, living currently under ISRAELI OCCUPATION, having lost friends and literally my entire childhood to Israel, you’re asking me why I then hate people who directly support my oppressors? Do you think everyone has your privilege of being far and detached and unaffected?

"The Palestinians are being oppressed by the Israelis, murdering children and stealing their land" is EXACTLY what is happening. Do you understand power dynamics and structures?

I’ll make things really simple for you: When the Palestinians do anything, it is in response to a brutal occupation and the ethnic cleansing we’ve been facing for the better part of a century now.

When the Israelis do something, it’s to uphold their military occupation. It’s to uphold the status quo and their ethnic supremacy at our expense.

There are worlds of difference between these two, and don’t you ever dare equate them.

It is not complicated in the slightest. It’ actually very simple, and the mystification of the “current situation” has been an Israeli tactic since day one. If you go back in history, a 5 year old could tell you that a bunch of fresh colonists establishing an ethnocracy at the expense of the indigenous population is point-blank wrong, by any standard.

You’re incredibly naïve if you think the world would ever take action based on “justice” and not interests. Is that really your standard for morality? Did the world take immediate action with regards to Apartheid South Africa? Algeria? No it took ages for them to move a finger, and it was the efforts of the indigenous population that resulted in victory, not a complacent, apathetic world.

Your problem is, that you seem to think that you’re so much more sophisticated and enlightened in taking this detached non-stance. Such positions only reinforce the status quo and the narrative of the side with all the power. I don’t need or want your condescending “support” on our side. We have history on our side, we have the solidarity of all decolonizing and marginalized peoples on our side, and the truth.

And a few dozen years down the line, when Israel is just a bad memory, remember this conversation. Remember that you stood and squabbled on the sidelines, like all “objective” middle grounders.

Just like the middle grounders on ending child labor, the middle grounders on women’s suffrage, and the middle grounders on the civil rights movement.




Isn’t amazing how people don’t give a shit about misogyny until they can accuse muslims of it in order to justify their islamaphobia?

We’re adults, but, like…adult cats. Someone should probably take care of us, but we can sort of make it on our own.

my roommate, on the question “are we adults”



Don’t date men who disrespect women, doesn’t matter if he’s nice to you. If he’s constantly disrespecting other women, nah.

If he’s constantly disrespecting other women, he’ll get around to you sooner or later.


if you say you support ‘a woman’s right to not shave’ you should also be:

  • supportive of women who grow hair in places other than their legs and underarms, no matter for the cause of this
  • supportive of trans women to affirm they don’t need to get rid of every body hair to qualify as feminine

or else your support is pointless really